If I was going to die in one week I would do a lot. I would visit all my relatives. They would be glad to see me and say good-bye before I died.
Of course I would want to do some things I never tried before. I would want to go to “Funtown Splashtown“. Some things that I’ve done that I want to do again are play mini golf and bowling.
I would want to have a big “Leaving” sleep-over party. I would invite Andrea, Haley, Hailey, Hayley, Jenna, Madison N., Taylor, Tanner, John, Caleb, Lucy, Mom, Dad, Mrs. Moores, Mrs. Walton, and Mrs. Littlefield. We would watch movies and have popcorn.
I think that death is a bad way to go away from your family forever. You’re close to your family and don’t want to leave them.
“A week to live? Is that all? It can’t be. Come on, Doc, won’t you run another test? Please.”
I’ve done and seen a lot in my life. I don’t think I’d feel any urgency to have an experience-spree. What would be the point? There would be no time to reflect on those experiences or share them with friends.
No, I think I’d just focus on the important people in my life. I’d make sure they knew I loved them very much. I’d write letters to each of my daughters in which I’d give them my advice. I’d write my memoirs and share my wisdom.
And then I’d leave. I’d run away to die. If possible, I’d go out on my own terms: my own method and time. No depressing funeral and certainly no ghastly viewing. I prefer natural excarnation.
My family and I invented a time to spend with each other because Festibond is only once or twice a year. We call it “Family Night”. Each week Family Night is on Saturday. Every week each person in the family has a task they get to be in charge of on Family Night.
The conductor is one of the tasks we get to do. They lead the Family Night. The conductor asks the people to do their tasks. The conductor can ask them in any order they like but the people do them one at a time. The tasks you get to do are; the conductor, reader, activity, discussion, and refreshments. Other important things we do are highlight of the week, something we learned, problems we are having, and what our next blog post will be about.
OK, so “family night” isn’t exactly a novel concept. We have had weekly family night in the past and like the idea of getting together each week to reconnect. Sometimes we get so busy with our daily activities and caught up in the stresses of life that we don’t always appreciate each other and our relationships–which is most important. I especially miss out on time with my family as I have been spending much of my time engaged in studying for school and working.
Today was a snow day, so I went out in the snow. The girls and I met Jason Gendron at Cape Neddick Light. The precipitation was coming down very hard and was a wintry mix of snow and rain. Horrible stuff. Turning to face the lighthouse was nearly impossible without getting the lens all wet.
The last two weekends I’ve been far enough away to get a hotel and close enough that Kir and the girls were willing to come visit for a night (or two). They enjoyed swimming in the hotel pool and watching television (two things they don’t get to do at home).
One of the Fridays was very slow at the church so the girls came in so I could practice.
If you’ve been following this blog you know Festibond 2008 was enormously successful. It doesn’t make sense to get the family together to bond only once or twice a year, so we decided to have a weekly meeting to share, discuss, learn and enjoy one another. We call this meeting, quite creatively, “Family Night”.
Last night we had our first family night. It is about family members sharing with each other. We talk about things we did during the week and we spend time together doing things we enjoy.
First we went over family business. I had nothing to say. We also talked about what we learned this week. I said I learned that for the first time I heard the word visualize and learned what it means. It means to create a picture in your brain.
Our 2009 began the way it ended…cold. But that’s Maine and we love to be Mainers. The bookends of white wintry cold are separated by an equally magnificent spring, summer and autumn filled with road trips, lazy days at the beach and coastal adventures with and without lighthouses. Any day in Maine–whether cold and white, warm and green or filled with brilliant colors of autumn–is better than any other day just about anywhere else.